Job women need to work and family, and nurturing will more or less affect the performance of their jobs. The phrase "Si-Shi" often appears on Japanese social media (meaning that nurturing people seem to be overly favored) is behind the vagueness and injustice that workers who are nurturing have "seemingly privileged" and create unnecessary conflicts among colleagues with children.

Japanese media "FORZA According to STYLE, crisis management consultant Toshihiro Hirakata pointed out: "People who are disgusted with the 'ko-shi'' are often colleagues who have to bear the influence of absent from sports employees in their daily work. However, this is not a personal problem, but a result of insufficient company support system. In large enterprises, the education support or support system is usually more complete; but in small and medium-sized enterprises or new industries, the methods are usually random and incomplete."

Some female employees who do not have children suffer from them. Garner Hui, 46 years old (pseudonym), is one of them. She is a single woman at an advertising production company in Tokyo, and her colleagues who have children in the past few years have increased significantly.

Ghana said that it is inevitable to understand that children are having sex or having activities, but when they naturally hand over their work, they will actually feel a little dissatisfied. Especially during the summer vacation, the situation is even more obvious. Many children participate in summer training classes all day, which has led to the normal situation of some colleagues leaving early and preparing for the situation.

Garner certainly knew that preparing for the morning is a hard thing, but when a colleague said, "Because you have to prepare for the morning, you have to leave early and you can't attend the meeting at 5 p.m.", she couldn't help but mutter in her heart: "Is that matter more important than work?"

Garner said that he often lives with his nephews, and is not a complete understanding of Xin Li, who is not aware of the fertility. But even so, you will still feel unsuitable for the unspoken pressure of the culprit of "you should understand".

She said that it was not that he had to get a reply, but that if the other party could say thank you or show that he cared about his colleagues, his mood would be much worse. What she was not satisfied with was that some of the tutors in the department were arrogant when they talked, as if all the careers were created by them, which really made people feel very upset.

As the number of childbearing staff increases, the topics of lunch time or chat are gradually becoming more relevant to children, such as "the child has to take the English exam recently" and "It's hard for parents to help freely during summer vacations." Garner admitted that sometimes he really couldn't integrate, but if he didn't agree, he would be regarded as a cold person, so he had to smile and respond.

She said sometimes she even felt like "invisible punishment" that she had received because she had no children. However, this should not be the responsibility she alone has to bear. She hopes that if the company can distribute work more transparently or create a trend that can express its opinions, it will not turn out like this.

The opposition between "having children" and "no children" is actually not a real enemy relationship, but a "structural distortion" caused by imperfect systems and lack of understanding among people around them. But when these problems turn into fine frictions, the daily pressure in everyone's hearts is worth more positive in society and enterprises.