In the first half of life, in the second half of life, the stage has finally increased the time for young people to leave themselves. They rely on their "self-power" to unlock their potential in life, add color to the blank space in their calendar, and let their new life be mature!

From Taipei Transfer Station, I took the bus to Yilan, passed the Snow Mountain Tunnel, and took about an hour to the Yilan Central Transfer Station, and then changed the journey to the intersection of Yongmei Road Section 3. This is the junction of Jiaoxi, Lin Xiangyuan and Yilan City. On the way around the road about 100 meters, there is a three-story building high house. This is the residence of Lin Xiangcheng, former chairman of Yougaoka Company, who has been here for the next 30 years.

From the residence of the National Taiwan University Professor at Wenzhou Street, Taipei to his own farmhouse in Yilan, Lin Xiangchang and his wife prepared for five years to retire.

"I must buy a piece of land in Taiwan!" As a second generation from another province, he has a heavy idea of ​​taking root, and retirement has become an acceleration force. In 2014, the couple took a look at the exchanges between the three places and about 400 square meters of land, so they found designers to design blue pictures and supervise their own work. Finally, they "take roots" in January 19 and started their retirement life in the garden.

Sitting in the living room surrounded by CDs, black record records and books, in front of it was a set of antique vacuum tube soundtracks. Outside the glass window was his wife Xu Guangrong who moved from the Wenzhou Street dormitory or newly planted flowers, plants and trees. Lin Xiangjiang sat on the living room sand and looked at the snow-capped mountains far away. This economic expert also worked as a professional in the public department to deal with people from all walks of life. At this time, he was like a king sitting in his own world, leisurely and contented.

"You can see that the expressway shows convenient transportation, but it happens to be far away from the city and brings a sense of peace. It is located at the junction of Yilan, Lin Guo and Jiaoxi, so it is also convenient to buy things." Lin Xiangcheng explained the reason for choosing this place at the beginning.

The layout and Chen of the house here are closely related to the past interest of the couple. When he was young, Lin Xiangchang liked garden art life. For them, the tree-raising flowers were used to be happy in the past. Now, the forest garden has become a source of daily energy and is also a focus of daily life after retiring after working and living in a regular manner.

The prosperity of the job has ended. Remove the light ring and change the mood and look at us toward the second life. Lin Xiangying, who likes to listen to classical music, is arranged in sequence from romantic music, classical music, modern music to Baroque music, and a vacuum tube sound is displayed on each floor. In order to allow the original music to flow truly, the windows are thickened by two layers, so that the noise outside does not affect the listening and enjoyment. Not to mention, he also likes to make tea, smoke and cook. When I walked up to the second floor, I had a hidden book and a set of sounds. There was a tea table in the middle, which was where he and his wife savored tea and chatted. He loves to collect cigarettes, but he also wants to slowly carve out his own special things.

What about reading? "I only read the books I want to read. The book I read recently was "The Plague" introduced by my wife because of the epidemic." Lin Xiangyan said that unlike the habits of ordinary people, reading books is very practical. Because writing a column requires self-view, he will find the topics he needs to read. "If the brain does not move, it will easily accelerate aging." In order to make the brain unconscious, Lin Xiangyan also connected to regular columns to restrain himself from social distancing.

Compared to the life that was filled with things every day in the past, the flexibility of allocating time for me has increased, which is also a learning question. "It's perfect, but it's different." He explained that he and his wife would have a common topic, such as seeing a bird in the garden in the morning and sharing it with his wife at the dining table. The wife went online to find relevant information. If they had questions, they would not talk to each other.

Judging from the daily life, Lin Xiangqing's retirement life was orderly, with interest, enthusiasm, work, etc. being placed in his timetable in a contingent manner. But what outsiders cannot see is the change in their retirement mood. Lin Xiangyan believes that it takes some time to adjust this part.

"On the day of retirement, I forgot about my past hard work, and my life will only begin in another thirty years!" he reminded.

Lin Xiangcheng took the example of his appointment as the head of the Kaohsiung Municipal Government's Financial Bureau and his resignation from office that year, and it took him a year to adjust his mind. "Mrs. At that time, I only had one mouth left." For many men who had been successful in their careers, it was really difficult to start a life without a business card, but because of past experience, he decided to let go after moving to Yilan.

He quoted a sentence from his mother who is familiar with Japanese: "A retired man is like a fallen leaf that cannot be washed away in autumn, both cold and dirty." He did not want to be such a scene, in addition to adjusting his mind, he also truly waved to the next thirty years of life and acted vigorously.

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Moving from the city to the countryside is not only a change in residence, but also a adjustment of habits and inner world. The journey from Lin Xiangqian’s residence to Yilan’s city center is about twenty minutes, and there is only the entire joint and Jialefu to visit; the nearest supermarket also takes twenty minutes to walk, and the nearest neighbor is 200 meters away.

"There is a rule for traveling out", which he could not imagine when he lived in Taipei in the past. Before leaving, open the order and do the email and the tasks you take at once. Maybe the next time you leave will be a few days later.. He also "quit" his habit of visiting department stores, "in Taipei, he likes to visit department stores and buy things to ease the pressure, and he has to visit at least twice a week." But there is a department store in the country, so he changed to a convenience store that takes 40 minutes to travel.

Even though the couple lived together in retirement, they still had a long time left. Lin Xiangyi said, "You must know how to find a happy boy by yourself", "With more time, it is also a kind of fun to talk to yourself." As many retirement experts say, retirement is nothing more than retrieving "self-power". After gradually withdrawing from the lightning lamp from the original noisy world of battles, what remains is the ability to be with oneself.

Japanese socialist Chiho Ueno is an expert who focuses on retirement from her seniors. In her over one million book "A Person's Old" she pointed out, "Whether you get married or not, no matter who you are, you will be alone in the end." For most people, they are born, studied, and worked, and lived in the crowd for a long time. Until they retire, the time has increased, they suddenly realized that the time was too long.

"If a person's life focuses only on work and family, never constructs his own body, never learns to stay alone. When these two pillars move, the elderly life is like a lonely boat in the ocean, and I don't know where to go? Empty and loneliness slowly cut bones and flesh on an elderly man, and finally fall into a dark and purgatory of the elderly without the quality and taste of life." The author of "Who Waits for You in a Silver Smooth Place" reminds.

However, "it's own" does not force yourself to enter the personal independent state to slowly get used to it. If you don't talk to yourself well, most people will feel uneasy and fearful.

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Consultant psychologist Zhu Boan said that what people have to face is not just loneliness, but the inability to find a connection with the outside world, so there is fear. When you understand this meaning, then you will no longer be so difficult. Instead, as mentioned above, you will draw your own flaws and get a sense of tranquility. But, if you can, how can you prepare?

The first suggestion that Wu Jiaxuan, a physician at the Physical and Psychiatry Department of Far East Joint Clinic, was: give yourself a period of time every day, even ten minutes. "Let's calm down and write down your thoughts, diary or calmness today." When writing down, it means talking to yourself. Sometimes the negative emotions will slowly sort out the source through a pen and a picture, and slowly integrate the chaotic thoughts. Wu Jiaxuan also suggested that if you really can't write it out, you can start with the paraphrase to write down the object or thing you are grateful for, and maintain positive thinking.

The board of directors of Fujida Insurance Regulatory Company, who is currently practicing retirement, also shared that the setbacks encountered in the 40 years of work have been constantly, and when he started his career, he was also facing the pressure of 20 million yuan in age, but it was too difficult to rely on positive thinking. "I keep saying that I am tired, or I think that I am not good at old age, and that will get worse and worse." He reminded.

Secondly, even if you retire, you must keep your work and rest normally. Whether you go to bed early or get up late or get up late, try to fix the time. Only in this way can you arrange your strength, physical strength, brain, and even your own time to maintain a regular life rhythm. Lin Xiangchang also reminded him to stay away from his mobile phone and chase the drama day and night. He believes that retirement is a gift for the second half of his life. He finally got back the ball-making power by himself, but if he indulges in clips and entertainment information, it will not only affect sleep but also waste time.

Anthony, a British psychiatrist. Anthony Storr also has the same explanation in his book "Solitude is a Capability". He pointed out that self-cultivating imagination can help brain integration and potential development.

Food life writer Han Liang memorized himself and got happiness from reading and enjoying art, and most of these things were done by her alone. "Reading can make your thoughts clearer and more clearer, and appreciating art is also a kind of thinking." This has also become a part of her writing.

Finally, don't care too much about other people's eyes. A person's practice can start with a trip, watching movies, and eating meals at a restaurant to see if you can be free to stay with yourself, and practice will not be interfered with by others' eyes.

Life is your own, especially in the second half of life. Even if you are cheering up, you can come from your heart!

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